Friday 21 August 2009

World's apart....

While others we're wondering how they're son and daughters did in their A levels and if they got into uni that they wanted... I was worried about my son, who was going under a general anaesthetic to have a couple of teeth removed..

It seems this time of the year, wherever you look, you read or hear news saying about what people are hoping for so they can get into uni.... and it goes on for days.... but sometimes it's like a knife going through me, as it reminds me, that I have a child with Severe Learning Difficulties, that has never called me 'mum' let alone be able to read or write...

Don't get me wrong, I wish everyone luck and hope they get the results they need, so they can go on, to do what they want, and I know some have had to struggle harder than others, also I remember how I felt waiting for our daughters results a few years back, to see if she could do what she wanted...

but some days when you feel down, it hurts, but I try and look on the bright side of life and remember how lucky I am to have him, and think of all the things my son has achieved in he's 18 years... which I know is world's apart from them attending college and uni... and I know he always will be, but that is what makes him extra special, lol... and I know there are lots of other mum's who have extra special children out there too, that also know how I am feeling....


Oh yes Steven was fine with having he's teeth out, I was very proud of him as he wasn't as distressed as I thought he would be when they put the mask over he's mouth... the next few days will be fun and games making sure he doesn't put thing in he's mouth, which I know he will do even the more once he knows I don't want him doing it, lol...
Thanks to all the emails, text's and sparkles we received, I think they helped me a lot, thanks...

I hope all those waiting for results, have got what they wanted and wish them luck in whatever path they have chosen...

4 comments:

SusieJ said...

Oh Maria - I'm in tears reading this. I can't begin to imagine how you cope and how you're feeling.
Yes, Nicholas has had his problems and it's taken him longer than his peers to reach this level but at least he calls me Mum (or Mother if I've annoyed him).
Extra special sparkles Maria to an extra special Mum.
Hugs too for both you and Steven.
Sue xx

Anonymous said...

i do feel for you maria, and it must be a heart breaker, when your baby has never said the words mum, even 18years later.
but i know you, and you wont want sympathy. as you, gill and alyson, just get on with it.
but the 3 of you are EXTRA SPECIAL mums. and you 3 and other mums out there with severe learning difficulties, should be rewarded. and you are everyday, when steven smiles, he's happy, and cheeky! lol but you already know that.
we should give steven his own diploma, for what he has achieved. his page he made me for my fat book, il treasure forever, as i know how difficult it is for him. even to try to hold a pencil, with help from his mum. never mind control.
steven was soooo brave, having his teeth out. and so good afterwards.
i think you carried all the stress, for him. lol

gina xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Susan said...

Glad his op went okay.
Your post made me cry :(

dagbird2001 said...

glad his op went ok maria, and i hope he didnt give you too much stress with putting things in his mouth.
your thread bought tears to my eyes reading this, and for that i am sending you and steve extra special hugs.
xxxxxxx