Friday, 4 February 2011

Relection on 2010

Whoops, am a it late with this, this year.

Well as you know the first half of the year was taken up with sorting out my daughters house as we got it on the 22nd December 2009 and we had the builders straight in, in the January...

So what did we do, we had to do the damp and sort out the chimney first, then it was a new kitchen and bathroom. We also had a hole knocked through from the lounge into the dining room and had doors fitted, which of course meant building regulations were needed, all great fun. But we got all that sorted also a loft ladder fitted and wardrobes fitted in the master bedroom and a spot of painting in a couple of rooms, for them to move in on the 1st June...

The second half of the year was taken up with Steven leaving school after being there for 15 and half years, so quite an emotional time for me and a frustrating one for Steven as he didn't understand why his happy life style had to change?

To be honest it has been a roller coaster ride for both of us, and it's still not over yet. We are now on our 3rd carer (that's not counting the 2 that handed their notices in before they had actually worked with him). We now have a member of staff from the Out of Town Centre taking Steven out for his social skills on a Thursday morning, so fingers crossed, but seems to be going OK and we are in our 3rd week, lol.

Because of the house and Steven, we didn't really do any holidays, we did a weekend away in May, which was Steven's belated Birthday present and we wanted Steven out the way when Sam moved out, as he would have got totally confused with all the in and outs of furniture and boxes. Then in August Clive and I went away for 48 hours to celebrate our 25th wedding Anniversary, which was very relaxing with it having a spa and pool there, OK the relaxation didn't last once we got back home to reality, hehehe but it was lovely while it lasted. We also had a lovely BBQ round my daughters house to celebrate hubbies 50th.

Oh yes, I also help start a new carers group for parents/carers of young adults. As we found out there was not the support out there once your child leaves school or becomes 18 (an adult) and to be honest the problems become harder to deal with.
For one, you don't have the back up from the services, you loose your right to be classed as your son's mum, you become their carers, yes don't go there, it's ludicrous as I'm still my daughters mum, but in the eyes of the law I am not...

So I wonder what 2011 will bring, hopefully health, laughter, happiness and lots of rest, lol...xx

5 comments:

SusieJ said...

What a year you had Maria. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the Thursday carer lasts - for both you and Steven - all the changes must be so disruptive for him (and you).
Hope that 2011 is more relaxing all round.
Hugs,
Sue xx

craftattack said...

Was a busy year, Maria, hope this one will run smoothly for you!

Hi I'm Maria... said...

thanks ladies, hope you have a better one too...xx

Susan said...

I hope 2011 is kind to you.
Thanks for being such a good friend (sorry for all my whingeing).xxxxx.

Hi I'm Maria... said...

thanks susan, and you NEVER whinge, hugs...xx